Safety Tips

The vast majority of meets set up through dating sites, friendship sites or swinging and fetish sites are absolutely fine and very safe, however you can never be too careful. As a responsible platform OnlyMeets number one prioritises is the safety of our community so please take a few moments to read our safety guidelines, most of them may seem obvious but it never hurts to have a refresh.

Online Safety

Whenever you use the internet for any purpose there are always potential safety issues but following some basic rules will let you browse and chat with confidence.  The following are suggestions that OnlyMeets recommends for any first meets.  If you have any worries or concerns about a member on our site we ask you contact our support team who will assist.

Never give your home address

Don't give your full name

Don't give your telephone number

Don't give your email

We strongly recommend that when arranging first meets that these are set in public places - you can always go to a hotel or other private place once you feel comfortable. Swinger clubs, pubs, bars, restaurants, basically anywhere that is public works!

Remember, OnlyMeets offers a free verified profile service and we encourage members to use this facility so we can ensure all profiles are accurate with respect to members' sex and age.  If you are talking to someone who is not verified then exert extra caution over arranging meets, especially if the meet is not in a public spot.

Club Safety

Swinger clubs and BDSM or fetish venues offer an excellent standard of both cleanliness and safety, so these venues are perfect for first time meets and also those who prefer to keep their kinky lifestyle away from their home postcode.  All swinger clubs and swinging hotels that we know operate a high level of safety such as ID requirements and a strict zero tolerance approach to harrasment.  No always means No.

However, we would still urge a level of caution just as we would if you were leaving a nightclub in the early hours.  Be careful about giving too many personal details such as address or telephone numbers.  Also, if you are leaving the club by yourself then we would again recommend caution, if it is not too late then phoning a friend when you are leaving and staying on the phone until you reach your method of transport is always sensible.

Meet Safety

So you have arranged a meet and you can already feel the knots in your stomach, we don't think first time meeting nerves ever stop but there are some quick and easy ways to ensure you feel safe and comfortable and have the best time possible.

If you are meeting at home, hotel room or other private place then we would recommend speaking on the phone first, even if you withhold your number you can tell a lot from a phone call.  You already know that OnlyMeets offers a free verification service so look for the tick on their profile so that the age and sex has already been confirmed by us.  If you can let a friend know you are going on a "date" then this is also good practice, maybe even get them to ring you incase you feel the need to leave.

Never leave your drinks unattended and always ensure you have easy transportation if you are away from home.

Golden rule is that if you feel uncomfortable consider arranging the meet in a public place or cancel the meet.

Sexual Safety

Taking your sexual health as seriously as your physical or mental health is an absolute must.  The Swinging, BDSM and Fetish communities are primarily built on a combination of trust, rules and respect, this ensures that all pre-defined boundaries, such as protected or unprotected sex, are clear to all parties and followed at all times.

However, if you are sexually active we would recommend regular testing regardless of how you met your playdates, especially if you prefer bareback.  Your local testing clinic service can be found by clicking here and many of the swinger clubs also hold free anonomous testing sessions.

Concerns or worries?

In the unlikely event you have any concerns over a community member we ask that you reach out to our support team immedately through our contact us page.